Before I started to walk the path I am walking today, I had certain ideas about what Power is.
My definition of Power was: being measured by the amount of money I had. After all in today’s world we are generally measured by our place in society and by the people that we know.
Power to me was the ability to control everything around me and even to manipulate people or situations for personal gain.
I had this strong urge to be in control of practically everything in my life. Suddenly occurring situations at work always needed to be reported to me, because I had the feeling that I could handle such situations much better than any other person. It used to be really difficult for me to delegate certain tasks and I did not even notice that I started to talk to people in such a way that things were always done the way I wanted them to be done. Even if that meant that I had to make certain promises or keep them happy for a while. As long as I was sure that things happened my way.
The same happened in my earlier relationships. It was me who decided what happened, what we were going to do, when we were going to do it and how. In some situations I even threatened my partner to walk out of the relationship if certain things would not happen the way I wanted.
Power to me was domination.
My mentor taught me to look at how I used power for my personal intentions and he made me ask myself:
Did my approach to Power serve the whole?
He made me see that our minds contain so many different images of what Power looks like and how it acts.
We commonly see Power as being capable of abuse, domination and destruction, versus healing and creation.
Negative displays of Power have become images that we integrated into our consciousness and we are trying to fulfil or avoid them.
It is here that we have to make a shift.
- It is not who we know, it is how well we know ourselves that will take us where we want to be in our lives.
And in my opinion, as far as that goes, this simple statement is an act of Power.
- It forces us to find the means of creating our own happiness from within, rather than from an external place
or source, so we become the centre, instead of us placing the centre upon anything else.
I hope you have enjoyed this article and that you realize that these self motivation tips are the key to growth. Therefore I recommend you to have a good and conscious look at how you are presently functioning in your life and if necessary do some self motivation exercise in order to obtain the necessary self motivation skills.
Kamis, 23 April 2009
Increase Motivation
If you want to make things happen the ability to motivate yourself and others is a crucial skill. At work, home, and everywhere in between, people use motivation to get results. Motivation requires a delicate balance of communication, structure, and incentives. These 21 tactics will help you maximize motivation in yourself and others.
Motivation
1. Consequences - Never use threats. They’ll turn people against you. But making people aware of the negative consequences of not getting results (for everyone involved) can have a big impact. This one is also big for self motivation. If you don’t get your act together, will you ever get what you want?
2. Pleasure - This is the old carrot on a stick technique. Providing pleasurable rewards creates eager and productive people.
3. Performance incentives - Appeal to people’s selfish nature. Give them the opportunity to earn more for themselves by earning more for you.
4. Detailed instructions - If you want a specific result, give specific instructions. People work better when they know exactly what’s expected.
5. Short and long term goals - Use both short and long term goals to guide the action process and create an overall philosophy.
6. Kindness - Get people on your side and they’ll want to help you. Piss them off and they’ll do everything they can to screw you over.
7. Deadlines - Many people are most productive right before a big deadline. They also have a hard time focusing until that deadline is looming overhead. Use this to your advantage by setting up a series of mini-deadlines building up to an end result.
8. Team Spirit - Create an environment of camaraderie. People work more effectively when they feel like part of team — they don’t want to let others down.
10. Recognize achievement - Make a point to recognize achievements one-on-one and also in group settings. People like to see that their work isn’t being ignored.
11. Personal stake - Think about the personal stake of others. What do they need? By understanding this you’ll be able to keep people happy and productive.
12. Concentrate on outcomes - No one likes to work with someone standing over their shoulder. Focus on outcomes — make it clear what you want and cut people loose to get it done on their own.
13. Trust and Respect - Give people the trust and respect they deserve and they’ll respond to requests much more favorably.
14. Create challenges - People are happy when they’re progressing towards a goal. Give them the opportunity to face new and difficult problems and they’ll be more enthusiastic.
15. Let people be creative - Don’t expect everyone to do things your way. Allowing people to be creative creates a more optimistic environment and can lead to awesome new ideas.
16. Constructive criticism - Often people don’t realize what they’re doing wrong. Let them know. Most people want to improve and will make an effort once they know how to do it.
17. Demand improvement - Don’t let people stagnate. Each time someone advances raise the bar a little higher (especially for yourself).
18. Make it fun - Work is most enjoyable when it doesn’t feel like work at all. Let people have fun and the positive environment will lead to better results.
19. Create opportunities - Give people the opportunity to advance. Let them know that hard work will pay off.
20. Communication - Keep the communication channels open. By being aware of potential problems you can fix them before a serious dispute arises.
21. Make it stimulating - Mix it up. Don’t ask people to do the same boring tasks all the time. A stimulating environment creates enthusiasm and the opportunity for “big picture” thinking.
Master these key points and you’ll increase motivation with a bit of hard work.
Motivation
1. Consequences - Never use threats. They’ll turn people against you. But making people aware of the negative consequences of not getting results (for everyone involved) can have a big impact. This one is also big for self motivation. If you don’t get your act together, will you ever get what you want?
2. Pleasure - This is the old carrot on a stick technique. Providing pleasurable rewards creates eager and productive people.
3. Performance incentives - Appeal to people’s selfish nature. Give them the opportunity to earn more for themselves by earning more for you.
4. Detailed instructions - If you want a specific result, give specific instructions. People work better when they know exactly what’s expected.
5. Short and long term goals - Use both short and long term goals to guide the action process and create an overall philosophy.
6. Kindness - Get people on your side and they’ll want to help you. Piss them off and they’ll do everything they can to screw you over.
7. Deadlines - Many people are most productive right before a big deadline. They also have a hard time focusing until that deadline is looming overhead. Use this to your advantage by setting up a series of mini-deadlines building up to an end result.
8. Team Spirit - Create an environment of camaraderie. People work more effectively when they feel like part of team — they don’t want to let others down.
10. Recognize achievement - Make a point to recognize achievements one-on-one and also in group settings. People like to see that their work isn’t being ignored.
11. Personal stake - Think about the personal stake of others. What do they need? By understanding this you’ll be able to keep people happy and productive.
12. Concentrate on outcomes - No one likes to work with someone standing over their shoulder. Focus on outcomes — make it clear what you want and cut people loose to get it done on their own.
13. Trust and Respect - Give people the trust and respect they deserve and they’ll respond to requests much more favorably.
14. Create challenges - People are happy when they’re progressing towards a goal. Give them the opportunity to face new and difficult problems and they’ll be more enthusiastic.
15. Let people be creative - Don’t expect everyone to do things your way. Allowing people to be creative creates a more optimistic environment and can lead to awesome new ideas.
16. Constructive criticism - Often people don’t realize what they’re doing wrong. Let them know. Most people want to improve and will make an effort once they know how to do it.
17. Demand improvement - Don’t let people stagnate. Each time someone advances raise the bar a little higher (especially for yourself).
18. Make it fun - Work is most enjoyable when it doesn’t feel like work at all. Let people have fun and the positive environment will lead to better results.
19. Create opportunities - Give people the opportunity to advance. Let them know that hard work will pay off.
20. Communication - Keep the communication channels open. By being aware of potential problems you can fix them before a serious dispute arises.
21. Make it stimulating - Mix it up. Don’t ask people to do the same boring tasks all the time. A stimulating environment creates enthusiasm and the opportunity for “big picture” thinking.
Master these key points and you’ll increase motivation with a bit of hard work.
Taking On The Challenges In Life
Along one’s life journey, there will definitely have ups and downs. There will be storms and difficult times. Have you wonder why is this so?
Basically, there are 5 reasons, which are:
1. To develop your character. When you are facing the most challenging time in your life, it is usually the best time to see your character. Do you give up easily? Or do you continue to bite your teeth and fight on like a warrior?
2. To test your faith. Usually prior to your success, you will face a lot of setbacks, and will start to lose confidence and faith. During this difficult time, it is the best time to test your faith, whether you believe that your success will be a reality in the near future.
3. To learn new things. Every setback happens from a cause, and this is the best time to learn from your mistakes, correct it, and not to make the same mistakes in the future.
4. To strengthen yourself. There is a quote which says “Things that do not kill you will only make you stronger”. After every setback, bounce back and be stronger.
5. To get out of comfort zone. Sometimes, when you are too comfortable in your work or journey to success, you will not improve, and tend to become complacent. Setbacks will only wake you up, and urge you to be more on your toes.
Just remember, success is usually 1 step away. Work hard towards your goal now.
Basically, there are 5 reasons, which are:
1. To develop your character. When you are facing the most challenging time in your life, it is usually the best time to see your character. Do you give up easily? Or do you continue to bite your teeth and fight on like a warrior?
2. To test your faith. Usually prior to your success, you will face a lot of setbacks, and will start to lose confidence and faith. During this difficult time, it is the best time to test your faith, whether you believe that your success will be a reality in the near future.
3. To learn new things. Every setback happens from a cause, and this is the best time to learn from your mistakes, correct it, and not to make the same mistakes in the future.
4. To strengthen yourself. There is a quote which says “Things that do not kill you will only make you stronger”. After every setback, bounce back and be stronger.
5. To get out of comfort zone. Sometimes, when you are too comfortable in your work or journey to success, you will not improve, and tend to become complacent. Setbacks will only wake you up, and urge you to be more on your toes.
Just remember, success is usually 1 step away. Work hard towards your goal now.
Living With Loneliness
Loneliness is feeling empty inside. It is a feeling of separateness and isolation. It is a feeling of being out of touch with other human beings.
Loneliness can occur when a person does not have someone to depend on, a close family, a group of friends, or relationships with people at work or school. A person can be lonely even when surrounded by other people. We can feel lonely when there is a lack of intimacy in our relationships.
Loneliness occurs at all stages of our life. We may have felt it during our teenage years, as a new parent, when the children left home. Perhaps we never found Mr. or Ms. “Right,” or maybe we experienced the pain of divorce or the death of a spouse. Loneliness can be transitory and ebbs and flows during our lifetime.
Different times of year often make lonely people even lonelier. It sometimes even causes feelings of loneliness in people who have many relationships.
You can learn to live with your loneliness by taking a proactive approach to it. The following are some ideas that might help. Keep an open mind as you read them. If you find yourself shaking your head and telling yourself you can’t possibly do something about your loneliness, realize that only you can change the way you feel. If you don’t like feeling lonely choose to take action to change.
1. Accept the reality of your loneliness. It is neither something to be ashamed of nor something to hide. Everyone, at some point in her life, has periods of loneliness—some people accept it, others try to deny it. Accepting it is the first step to finding some relief.
2. Express your loneliness. You may do it through tears or by writing your feelings. Expressing your loneliness to yourself can often give you insight as to what is causing it.
3. Question whether you need help in dealing with your loneliness. Feelings of “aloneness” can often stem from depression. You may want talk with a therapist or speak with the leader of your religious community about it.
4. Push yourself to have contact with others. Call your local community center, church, synagogue, or senior center. Ask for a list of groups and activities. Select one that appeals to you and then make yourself attend a meeting or program. It will feel awkward at first but you won’t be the only person there who doesn’t know anyone. Even if you are, each person there had to come for the first time at one point.
5. Sign-up for a class. Most towns and cities have community colleges or recreation centers that offer adult education. Choose a class that interests you—photography, creative writing, bowling, or maybe even French.
6. Introduce yourself to someone who also appears alone. If you feel awkward and don’t know what to say, pretend you are interviewing that person for a newspaper article. Most people are flattered when someone shows an interest in them.
7. Suggest meeting for coffee or attending a concert or play together when you meet someone with whom you feel you have something in common.
8. Understand that it takes time to establish intimate relationships and build trust. But, nothing is going to happen until you start.
9. Volunteer your talents. Call your local volunteer center to see what services are needed. Choose an activity that brings you in contact with other people. Regularly scheduled time with other people can offer you a respite as you work your way out of your loneliness.
10. Join an on-line community. If you have Find sites of interest to you that have discussion groups. You can read what other people have to say and share your feelings anonymously until you feel safe.
11. Re-connect with distant relatives or old friends. Plan a reunion with people whom you haven’t seen in years. Bring together a group of your old high school buddies or cousins with whom you’ve lost contact.
12. Exercise at a fitness center. There are fitness centers in every price range. Find one that seems to have people your age. Exercise helps ease the feelings of depression. Strike up a conversation with the person on the treadmill next to yours. Meet people during a stretch class or swimming lessons.
13. Take a bus trip for single people. Check out information on ElderHostel trips online or see if your local community center offers day trips.
Choosing to reach out to another is difficult but the rewards make it worth the effort. If you are ready to address your loneliness and do something about it, congratulate yourself on your willingness to take control of your life and then take the first step.
By: Karen Rowinsky, LMSW
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The Real Birds And Bees: Motivation For Your Future
Bees Can't Fly: The real birds & bees
of the job hunt.
Yup, bees can't possibly fly. Scientists and other really-smart-people have found that such round, tubby creatures with those itty-bitty wings can't physically fly. But they do, because nobody told them they can't.
As you work through the frustrating business of hunting for work and income, do you sometimes hear or start to accept that there are things you can't do because you are too short, fat, old, dumb, poor or just too “(fill-in-the-blank)”?? Others say the same sad things over & over to you or worse yet, maybe you start saying them to yourself.
Instead, understand that bees can fly only because noboidy ever told them they could NOT fly.
For right now, stop all that static and hear the story of the chicken hawk:
One day a baby eagle (named George) was found abandoned on the ground, fallen from his nest. He was brought by a caring farmer to live with a family of chicken hawks.
There George grew with his new sisters and brothers, learning the ways of the chicken hawk, eking out a subsistence life and never leaving the ground. Good survivors, those chicken hawks, but, wow! What a rough life!
One day George saw an eagle flying overhead. ”WOW!”, he said, ”look at that!” His brother and sister chicken hawks all told him not to worry, or to dream about that, THAT is an eagle, a majestic bird that flies where it wants... don't YOU worry (or dream), because YOU are just a chicken hawk.
George slept on these thoughts and decided he would try this 'flying thing'. He soon caught a lot of attention...all bad:
“What are you doing? You're scaring us!”
“You're shaming the family! Other hawks are talking”
“You just keep falling on your face!”
“So being a chicken hawk isn't enough for you, eh?”
“What a goon! Tired of falling down yet?”
George kept falling and hurting himself; spreading his wings. He hurt because he wasn't used to using those muscles. But then... he flew just a little... then more and later some more. And soon he flew like the eagle that was always inside of him.
Post Script: George returns to his chicken hawk family with presents and stories of far off lands and gives flying lessons to those who want to try. Even if they fall a lot at first. Go ahead, try and fly. Birds and bees do it.
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of the job hunt.
Yup, bees can't possibly fly. Scientists and other really-smart-people have found that such round, tubby creatures with those itty-bitty wings can't physically fly. But they do, because nobody told them they can't.
As you work through the frustrating business of hunting for work and income, do you sometimes hear or start to accept that there are things you can't do because you are too short, fat, old, dumb, poor or just too “(fill-in-the-blank)”?? Others say the same sad things over & over to you or worse yet, maybe you start saying them to yourself.
Instead, understand that bees can fly only because noboidy ever told them they could NOT fly.
For right now, stop all that static and hear the story of the chicken hawk:
One day a baby eagle (named George) was found abandoned on the ground, fallen from his nest. He was brought by a caring farmer to live with a family of chicken hawks.
There George grew with his new sisters and brothers, learning the ways of the chicken hawk, eking out a subsistence life and never leaving the ground. Good survivors, those chicken hawks, but, wow! What a rough life!
One day George saw an eagle flying overhead. ”WOW!”, he said, ”look at that!” His brother and sister chicken hawks all told him not to worry, or to dream about that, THAT is an eagle, a majestic bird that flies where it wants... don't YOU worry (or dream), because YOU are just a chicken hawk.
George slept on these thoughts and decided he would try this 'flying thing'. He soon caught a lot of attention...all bad:
“What are you doing? You're scaring us!”
“You're shaming the family! Other hawks are talking”
“You just keep falling on your face!”
“So being a chicken hawk isn't enough for you, eh?”
“What a goon! Tired of falling down yet?”
George kept falling and hurting himself; spreading his wings. He hurt because he wasn't used to using those muscles. But then... he flew just a little... then more and later some more. And soon he flew like the eagle that was always inside of him.
Post Script: George returns to his chicken hawk family with presents and stories of far off lands and gives flying lessons to those who want to try. Even if they fall a lot at first. Go ahead, try and fly. Birds and bees do it.
You can't land that job unless you first build your Oz Factor. Check out the half-price (now $1) ebooks to success in your search for winning the employment game at
the Job Hunt Store
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